Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl-A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship |
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PRODUCT DESCRIPTION
Binding: Paperback
Dewey Decimal Number: 646.77
EAN: 9781580627566
ISBN: 1580627560
Label: Adams Media
Manufacturer: Adams Media
Number Of Items: 1
Number Of Pages: 272
Publication Date: 2002-10-01
Publisher: Adams Media
Studio: Adams Media
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Do you feel like you are too nice? Sherry Argov’s Why Men Love Bitches delivers a unique perspective as to why men are attracted to a strong woman who stands up for herself. With saucy detail on every page, this no-nonsense guide reveals why a strong woman is much more desirable than a "yes woman" who routinely sacrifices herself. The author provides compelling answers to the tough questions women often ask: -Why are men so romantic in the beginning and why do they change? -Why do men take nice girls for granted? -Why does a man respect a woman when she stands up for herself? Full of much-needed advice, hilarious real-life relationship scenarios, "she says/he thinks" tables, and the author’s unique "Attraction Principles," Why Men Love Bitches gives you bottom-line answers. It helps you know who you are, stand your ground, and relate to men on a whole new level. Once you’ve discovered the feisty attitude men find so magnetic, you’ll not only increase the romantic chemistry in the relationship-you’ll gain your man’s love and respect with far less effort.
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Summary: Every woman should own a copy of this book!
Comment: Yes, every woman! Come on, have you ever felt like you betrayed yourself a little bit when you agreed with what the guy was saying just to be liked?? Especially when this 'prince charming' is out of your life in 3 months time and you realise that he wasn't worth even a minute of your time? This book has helped me, that I can say for sure. I bought it a while ago and every time I feel I relapse into good old doormat behavior, all I have to do is read a chapter ( any chapter )of this book and I am back on track :)
Good luck!
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Summary: Doormat no more
Comment: I love this book and have bought it for several of my friends. Argov teaches you how to stop being a doormat and to take back your power. I love the writing style, it's upbeat and to the point. Very well done!
Susan BarnesLove Magic
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Summary: AMAZING!!!!
Comment: Why Men Love Bitches is amazing! I think that it's the best advice that I'd ever received.. I've now started to be more assertive and also made sure that I'm number 1! Definitely a great read for anyone who is over being the one that is dumbed for stupid reasons!! THANK YOU FOR THIS GREAT BOOK :)
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Summary: Outstanding!
Comment: As a man, I can say with confidence that Ms. Argov has truly looked into my soul, for I do love the bitches - bitches and hos.
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Summary: Missing half of the equation in relationship
Comment: The book should be retitled "Why FEMININE Men Love Bitches" because much of this advice, if you follow it, is a sure-fired way to become "just friends" with a good masculine energy man. Understand that the book is trying to raise a woman's self-esteem--and by all means, pick up a copy if you're new to relationship advice or want to learn a little bit about the mind of some men--but the assumptions the author makes for how we should actually behave based on "what men want" isn't accurate. It also clearly assumes a caliber of men that is lower than some of us have or want.
This book only covers one half of the equation: making a woman strong on the inside, which, yes, is absolutely necessary for a healthy relationship--if she understands where her strength as a woman comes from (this book does not provide that depth of information). But the true appeal and attraction of a woman to a man is that she is soft, she is feminine. And the way a strong woman achieves this is that her inner core is so strong, she can allow herself to follow and trust a man without losing herself. There is nothing more attractive.
The author tells women to be "logical" and don't express emotions, that men don't respond well to feelings. But this couldn't be further from the truth. Men don't like drama but they love a feeling woman. This IS a woman's mystery, that she can lead him into that realm of relationship and being. This is what men chase after, not the woman's behavior, not her "personality," but her femininity. Following all these do's and don'ts of this book would not only be exhausting but confusing and easy to forget (any when you do, you'll inevitably beat yourself up, putting you right back to where you don't want to be with your self-esteem). Men are chasing a woman's mystery, but that mystery is embedded in her femininity. What men want is the spirituality of the feminine energy (Carl Young, Aspects of the Feminine). This ironically, is also a woman's boundaries. Not her "independence." It's a shallow perspective on "the chase." Again, maybe with some men, but not with the ones we want.
I know from my own amazing relationship with a very strong man I fell head over heels for years ago, that the only way you, as a woman, will feel really good and natural about yourself is: letting go of controlling others, expressing your vulnerability, grounding yourself in self-control (contrary to our belief, it is not our man but our self-love that is the hardest thing to master).
Let's be honest. Do you really want to "control" your relationship? Isn't his affection, adoration, and commitment what you really want? Deep down, what you want is really for him to WANT YOU. This book, even though it comes across as about "self-respect" is really attempting to show you how you can make him want you--but by appealing with fear instead of real attraction. It's just not accurate, not for a good man anyway. The author makes the assumption that women need to be respected by being IN CONTROL. The problem is, feminine energy women (which is most of us) feel "respected" when their FEELINGS ARE CHERISHED, not when they lead or control. In fact, we feel miserable when we try to control. We realize we can be in control but the trade off is that our feelings are not cherished. If you want to be "respected" like that tough "police woman" the author seems to admire so much, you'll get respect. But you won't get the love of a masculine man. And that is worth everything on earth.
Take what you read in this book with a grain of salt unless you want to attract a feminine energy man or be your man's mom. There's a reference to Aretha's song, R-E-S-P-E-C-T, as if this is how we need to act. But really think about it, doesn't that sound like your mother? That is not the attitude of a strong, feminine energy woman. You want a man to want to be with you because you inspire him to cherish you, not because he is afraid of you or your independence. A feminine woman respects her man, and in turn, a good man cherishes her. That's the formula. If he doesn't cherishes her, she lets him know without making him wrong, without disrespect. And believe me, this woman will steal the heart of your man any day over a "bitch." This is the woman men will walk through fire for. Because she is strong within, at the same time, vulnerable, and exotically feminine on the outside. That's the missing half of the equation. I give "Why Men Marry Bitches" two stars for trying.
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